Mirror Mirror

Mirror Mirror

Last Wednesday, I heard from 2 completely different women,"I don't look in the mirror, my 'significant other' doesn't care how I dress, look, etc." .  Why is that so unsettling to me?  I mean, 1 of these woman is over 50, never been married, and someone who is spiritual, eastern wisdom believer, a literal 'healer', and someone with whom I have great respect for, and the other, a 30 something woman, who is a wife, mother of 2 teen boys, and currently pursuing her dream of becoming a school teacher. 1 lives in a big city, the other in a small town.  They couldn't be more opposite, yet they said the same exact thing… TO ME!!! I feel compelled to DO something about it!!  Okay, wait, let me just pause for a second and say, am I the ONLY person who sees a problem??  Let me explain.  You should 'care what you look like, how you dress' for YOU!!!!  I believe that its the thread that runs through your entire being!  What you see, how you see, who you see, affects how you FEEL!!  Haven't you ever been getting ready to go somewhere, and you look in the mirror, if only for a second, and caught a glance of yourself, and thought "alright! I'm lookin' pretty good today!" and then had a pretty good rest of the day (or few minutes, at the very least!)??  That's what I'm talking about!  That SPLIT second, or longer, that you saw yourself in the mirror, you saw your true beauty.. Whether that beauty was accompanied by 2 pounds of makeup, or just some freshly brushed teeth, there was beauty there!  So what makes us stop caring?  I KNOW that our significants want us to look good…..I mean, it ties into our self esteem, right?  I hope you know that what I'm saying has NOTHING to do with how much you weigh!!!! When I think about it though, I wonder if this is somehow tied into the reason why (they) we stop looking in the mirror.  I can only speak for myself (a person who looks in the mirror quite a bit), when saying no matter what my weight was (195, 180, 155, 140lbs), that I always looked in the mirror, and after 'getting ready' (hair, makeup ghujgh, clothes, etc.), would feel good-at my 'more to love size', I would think to myself "well, I'm hot from the boobs up".. that's how I truly felt!  And here I am now, at a decent size, and a mid-range age (hahaha), been through 2 big relationships (no marriages, no kids), and I still feel the same about the mirror!  I am PRO MIRROR!!  

I have a theory… or, an analogy… or, maybe it's just a thought…I believe the mirror can connect you to your soul.  if the phrase "the eye's are the windows to the soul", and you can't really see your own eyes without a mirror, doesn't that say something quite prophetic?